7 Ways to Create Emotional Intimacy on Valentine’s Day
How can you prioritize your relationship with emotional intimacy?
The Hallmark day of love, sex, and chocolate is just around the corner. And, it is also an excuse to create intimacy. But, who says intimacy has to be only about sex?
Why am I having bad sex, you might ask.
For many couples it can be challenging to have sex if there is no emotional connection. Over longer periods of time without emotional connection, it can create low self-esteem, self-questioning, and frustration in the relationship, and, not to mention bad sex. Part of the lack of emotional connection is due to stressors in life, such as children, work, and finances that add up and generally, sex is the first element of a relationship to die down. Being unable to make time for one another becomes a reality many couples face in these circumstances and maintaining the effort falls short. In these circumstances, most couples do not intentionally avoid love making or emotional connection, it is rather that they do not make their relationship a priority.
What does making your relationship a priority look like with emotional intimacy?
The way we feel when we are comforted by our partner through a hug or a kiss. This can make a big difference for one another as it confirms the feeling that I am loved. Humans are wired for love, connection, and belonging wherein when you are feeling loved, you have prioritized each other.
What if this Valentine’s Day you and your partner made the intentional excuse to create a day and night of emotional intimacy, without the expectation of sex. If it does lead to love making, hey, maybe that's a plus!
Here are 6 creative ways to create emotional and physical intimacy this Valentines Day
Play a card game such as Where Should We Begin by Esther Perel to deepen an emotional connection
Blindfolded massage with nice oils and music
Give each other a few hugs
Verbalize your appreciations for one another throughout the day
Fill in the blank I love the way you …
Book an Air Bnb to spend the weekend or an evening outside of your normal routine
Try a position in bed you used to do but no longer incorporate or are curious about
Food for thought:
In what ways do I feel comforted physically?
What is emotional intimacy to me and how does it turn me on?
